Why the Fuck Can’t We Let Life Just Come to Us?
- Jillian Stidd
- Dec 8, 2025
- 2 min read
There’s a question that has been clawing at me lately. A question that sits at the edge of exhaustion and awakening.
Why the fuck can’t we just let life come to us?
Why can’t we stop gripping, planning, hustling, thinking, forcing?
Why can’t we trust that what is meant will find us—even if we aren’t three steps ahead of it?
Because here’s the truth no one tells women:
We weren’t taught how to receive. We were taught how to carry. How to plan. How to fix. How to anticipate disaster before it hits. How to be the whole infrastructure of everyone else’s life.
We got so used to dragging our lives behind us that when life tries to COME TO US…
we panic.
We think doing nothing = losing everything. We think resting = falling behind. We think surrender = danger. We think softness = irresponsibility.
So we grind. And we overthink. And we micromanage. And we chase clarity like it owes us something.
But the truth?
Life reveals its next step the moment you stop trying to control it.
Not when you work harder. Not when you hustle longer. Not when you wear your nervous system down to threads.
But when you finally say:
“Fuck it. I’m done forcing. If it’s meant for me…let it come find me.”
Because the feminine does not hunt. She magnetizes. She attracts. She receives.
And she remembers this:
Everything meant for you arrives faster when you stop chasing it.
Everything meant for you grows clearer when you stop overthinking it.
Everything aligned becomes visible when you stop gripping the wheel.
So if you’re tired? Good.
Your exhaustion is the holy signal that the era of forcing is over.
Your Ingredient List™ is shifting you from effort → alignment.
From survival → surrender. From gripping → receiving. From chasing → allowing. From planning → being guided.
So ask yourself — honestly:
What if life is trying to hand you the next step but your hands are too full of fear to take it?
What if your only job right now is to stop doing everything and let life come to you?
Because you’ve carried enough. You’ve planned enough. You’ve survived enough. You’ve earned ease. You’ve earned softness. You’ve earned the right to be met halfway.
So here’s my question to you —the one that will rock your core if you let it:
What would your life look like
if you finally stopped forcing and let yourself be guided?
XOXO Jillian
Founder, My Ingredient List™
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